Written by neuropsychologist Theresa M. Regan, PhD, CAS, this book explains how social connection actually works—and why it can feel so complex.
Drawing from more than 30 years of clinical experience and over 1,000 autism evaluations in adolescents and adults, Dr. Regan translates research into real-life application.
Inside, you will learn how to:
• Recognize the difference between task-focused and relationship-focused communication
• Strengthen conversational skills without sacrificing authenticity
• Navigate compliments, gratitude, and emotional reciprocity
• Approach conflict without falling into “all good” or “all bad” thinking
• Repair misunderstandings and rebuild trust
This book does not promote masking or changing who you are. Instead, it increases clarity—about your own communication style, about the expectations of others, and about how neurological differences influence interaction.
Whether you are an autistic adult seeking insight, a spouse or partner wanting to strengthen connection, a parent supporting growth, or a clinician working with neurodiverse clients, this book provides structured guidance grounded in compassion.
ABOUT
Neuropsychologist, Certified Autism Specialist, and Director of a Diagnostic Autism Clinic in Peoria, IL
Theresa Regan
I am an adult neuropsychologist with a specialization in brain-behavior relationships. I'm also the mother of an amazing autistic son. Before his diagnosis, I knew the shame that comes from hearing others say, "That would never happen in my house" or "Please have his crying better before returning to the infant program." I received an overwhelming amount of parenting advice, but nothing helped.
It wasn't until my son was 5-years-old that someone took a moment to say, "I hope you know you're a good mom." The truth is, I hadn't known that. I was so grateful to be seen and supported during the confusing journey. It was soon after that my son received a diagnosis of autism and our path became purposeful.
My working knowledge of brain-behavior relationships merged with my personal journey. I was amazed to interact with adults in my work setting and realize, "This individual is on the spectrum, but they've never received a correct diagnosis!"
I offer individuals the hope and validation of having a correct diagnosis and a direction to move forward. With accurate diagnosis, individuals can understand how they are "wired," have words to express their needs, and finally feel understood by others. With a correct diagnosis, spouses and children of autistic adults can leave behind the feelings of rejection that have accompanied their confusing family interactions.
I am here to explain complex concepts in plain language. I give you a head start by providing you with the vital information I wish I had known years ago.
As a neuropsychologist, I've served adults and aged adults for more than 25 years. I'm a Certified Autism Specialist and the Director of the OSF HealthCare Adult Diagnostic Autism Clinic in Peoria, IL. I am the author of Understanding Autism in Adults and Aging Adults and Understanding Autistic Behaviors: Improving Health, Independence, and Well-Being.
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